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There are plenty of times when a perfectionist’s touch is needed in a band. They'll work with equipment until the sound is just right, come up with exact progression needed in a bridge section, and most importantly, push everyone else in the band to be their best. Of course, even perfectionists aren't perfect, no matter how hard they try. Sometimes they can be a real pain in the rear, particularly when they come into conflict with other bandmates over something. If you've got someone like this in your band, take these four pieces of advice into consideration.
1. Don't take it personally (even if it is personal)
A perfectionist is more likely to be demanding towards other band members. This is usually positive, but some ego bruising is a risk involved in any collaborative art. There are a variety of ways that a perfectionist may try to push others, some of which can result in hurt feelings. If you feel like a band member is throwing a few too many barbs your way, just remember that it's probably because he or she knows you can do better. Chances are your perfectionist is onto something, even if he or she is not communicating it well. Don't take the harsh delivery of the critique personally; focus on trying to figure out what the root of the issue is so that you can arrive at a solution that everyone's happy with.
2. Find out what's bugging the perfectionist
If a frustrated perfectionist is causing too much friction at rehearsal, then it's time to stop playing and talk it out. If the keyboard setting isn't just right, ask the perfectionist what he or she thinks would sound better. Sure, this slows things down at practice, but it just may lead to a breakthrough. You should always entertain the idea that a perfectionist could be onto something. Encourage discussion between all band members about the subject.
3. Don't be a doormat
While you should never write anyone’s input off completely in the band, it's important to make sure that everyone has a voice. Perfectionists may be pushy or even outright abrasive in getting their way, drowning out all other ideas in the process. Sometimes it's best for a band to refuse their proposals after a reasonable discussion. Simply put, agree to disagree if you cannot come to a consensus. The worst thing that can happen is the perfectionist will leave the band in a huff.
4. Let the perfectionist leave
A little strife is perfectly healthy in a band. Many of the most successful acts in the world have had multiple breakups and reunions. It's the kind of melodrama that makes for good music. The real point here is to give everyone a little breathing room and time to develop their skills, sounds, and ideas a bit more. Any perfectionist worth keeping will come back to the band without much fanfare in a short time if he or she truly belongs in the band. Furthermore, the group will be refreshed and stronger after a quick break, and you'll all be ready to tackle more gigs and write more music than before.
Anybody can be difficult in a band. I am the antithesis of a perfectionist, which can make things a real hassle sometimes. Ultimately, I love playing with perfectionists because we drive each other to do better in all areas. If you're not a perfectionist, mutual understanding and respect can iron out the largest of speed bumps.
Learn more about being the best bandmate you can be:
- 5 Things You Should Never Say to Your Bandmates
- 5 Respectful Ways to Let Your Bandmates Know They're Sucking
- 14 Rules for Being a Good Bandmate
- 6 Ways to Bond With Your Bandmates Outside of Rehearsal
- 10 Essential Qualities of Great Band Leadership
Matthew Wendler is a blogger and multi-instrumentalist from New Jersey. He specializes in guitar, bass guitar, and bagpipes, and is passionate about writing both professionally and for enjoyment. His personal blog can be followed on Twitter at @ymiatvmi.
